How do you really treat stress? Be more lobster!

There are a gazillion articles on google about stress; how to avoid it, treat it, stop it, prevent it etc etc…

Most of these articles will talk about very normal and sensible solutions to keeping stress under control. The good advice includes sleeping properly, eating properly, reaching out to friends, work life balance or breathing.

But, and this is a big but.

This advice doesn’t seem to help when we are in the midst of a stress episode.

In fact, when you are stressed, the very things that you are supposed to be doing such as sleeping, go out of the window.

Stress can turn you upside down.

So it how can we learn to use it instead of avoiding or getting rid of stress. 

Watch the video below, you may find it interesting. 

 

After you have watched the video, you will see that lobsters grow from the pressure that they feel inside their shell. Their shell isn’t working for them anymore.

So ask yourself. What is not working for me? Can I change it? If it can’t, can I change how I react?

Many people, mistakenly feel that if they are stressed anxious or depressed, that somehow they have become weak.

Not the case, most people will experience acute stress in their life as a result of something changing.

Whatever, what is, you will adapt in some way to that stress.

Stress changes us and even if you are in the midst of the most debilitating stress, the answer is to work out how to adapt and change as a result.

I can help you to do that.

Hypnotherapy can help you to unpick stress, see it in a different light and then use it to your advantage. As a result you will begin to feel calmer, happier and more connected to the world around you. 

I have already helped so many people from Brackley, Banbury and Oxfordshire to become better equipped when it comes to stress. 

If you are stressed and suffering because of it, then give me a call on 07525051263 and id be happy to help. 

 

 

 

I'm wide awake! Hypnotherapy for insomnia

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As the summer looms and the days become longer, I have noticed that sleep seems to be on everyone’s minds. Even the government are wondering whether we are getting enough shut eye.

But for some people, chronic insomnia is a nightmare in itself.

It’s that ongoing cycle of getting to bed time and dreading it because you hope that you will sleep but fear that you won’t.  Then lying awake, watching the small hours tick past whilst your mind zooms around relentlessly. Then comes the horrible fatigue as you are awoken by your alarm and have to contemplate how you are going to get through the day with so little rest.

People don’t sleep for all sorts of reasons and if it happens over and over again, then it can quickly become a habit.

Some people become so desperate that they visit the doctor for sleeping pills to knock them out. The problem with that is, that now, doctors are only likely to give you a prescription for a few weeks and then you are back to square one. So there is rarely any long term help from medication. 

It doesn’t matter how long you have been suffering for, hypnotherapy can help you.

When I work with insomnia, it tend to tackle it from all angles.

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·         First, we will work together to look at your life and what is triggering the lack of sleep.

·         Ill look at your response to stress and how that impacts on your nightly routine

·         Then we can look at getting your sleep habits back into shape as well as giving you some night recordings to reinforce what we will do in the sessions.

I will support and monitor your progress so that I can adapt to your needs in order to make sleepless nights a thing of the past.

If you are in the brackley, banbury or oxfordshire area then give me a call on 07525051263 so that you can start sleeping again. 

Struggling to lose weight? Try something different, try hypnotherapy instead

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The diet and fitness industry is huge. It literally makes billions per year, and there is always another diet around the corner to try. You will have heard or even tried most of these…

5:2

Keto

Meal prep

Membership programmes

Clean eating

Liquid detox

Atkins

Dairy free

The Everything free diet!

 

I have met so many people who have struggled with dieting, they see no way of losing weight and all of a sudden it becomes a mountain that they cannot climb. 

The more desperate you become to lose weight the more diets you will try. 

The more diets you try, the more money you give to the diet industry.

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Millions of us try these diets only to find that the weight loss doesn’t last and our money goes down the toilet. 

 

 

There is a reason why your diet isn't working

Diets ignore your emotions and you emotions play a key role in your eating habits. What you need is lasting change, lasting results and weight loss that you can sustain. To do this you need to actually change your habits and the way that you think about food. Weight loss is about your attitude to food, how it fits into your life style and your relationship with the things that you are eating.

Hypnotherapy can change you and your weight, giving you the results that you want. 

If you need help with your weight and keeping it off. Call me on 07525051263 and lets get this under control

Sad Syndrome - help in Brackley, Banbury and Oxfordshire

Winter has historically and culturally been a significant time of year. From festivals, to roast dinners and welcoming New Year’s, there is plenty going on.

But for some of us, winter is a dark time. The lack of sun light, cold dark mornings and staying in a lot can leave some people feeling really really low.

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It’s not surprising really, many animals go into hibernation, plants look dead, you might spend more money than you have on Christmas presents. More and more people get into debt over Christmas and with all of that time spent in four walls, arguments start.

All of this can add up to being a pretty miserable time.

You may even have got to the stage where you expect to feel bad over the winter because you feel the cold wind, dread kicks in and you feel more sensitive to things going wrong or feeling bad. And so the cycle of winter depression starts to creep in.

If you feel like this, then I can assure you that this doesn’t have to happen every winter.

Whilst, you may indeed feel worse over the winter, we can work together to get to the core of the issues that may be lurking underneath. Once you are free from those, we can have a look at rewiring your psychological perceptions of the winter months and how you respond to them.

Rest assured that regardless of the season. You can feel happy, energised and able to deal with things. You can feel more like yourself again and even better than that.

Hypnotherapy is great for SAD Syndrome. So if you are feeling down, I have offices in Brackley, Banbury and Oxford.

If you would like to banish the winter blues then feel free to contact me on 07525051263 or use the contact page on my website.

 

Mental Illnesses hurt, no matter who you are.

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Chester Bennington. What a great man! I can still remember standing in mud which oozed over the top of my wellies as I watched him in concert. I can remember how I didn’t pay much attention to the mud because Chester had the kind of voice which caused you to forget that you had been standing in the pouring rain for hours. I love Linkin Park and they gave me such wonderful childhood memories.

So as you can imagine, I was just as confused and as shocked as everyone else when I heard that he had succumbed to his inner demons and put an end to his life.

First world problems

I walked into work when the news broke out and one of my colleagues said, ‘God, all that money, a Playboy bunny wife and all his fans loved him? I don’t get it. I would have been so happy.’

I found myself agreeing with him for a second. Most of us have probably thought about the idea that a lottery win might sort out our problems. Well, I’m afraid that mental illnesses simply don’t give a shit who you are or what you have.  Anyone can suffer from a mental illness and Ferraris, mansions and fame will do nothing to plug the hole which many feel gaping in their hearts. Tragically, some people will get to the point where the pain is so hard to live with that they may simply not want to continue living at all.

Living with mental pain

Suicidal feelings often arise when the pain, the situation, the guilt, the shame is so big that a person feels a need to make it stop.  They may begin to see nothing but an ugly future in which the issues and the feelings that they have in the now, are still there.

People around them will mutter empty nothings, that everything will be okay, that things will get better and to stop being so silly. They mean well but these words will fall upon deaf ears, because that person in the fog of a mental illness cannot see through the thickly cloying mists which swirl and close around them. They simply cannot see a way out.

There is a better way

The problem with suicide is that it’s the most permanent solution to a temporary problem. There’s no come-back, no room for second thoughts and no room for buyer’s remorse. Mostly.

Studies of those who jumped from the Golden Gate Bridge, and somehow survived, show that every single one of them regretted their decision as they plummeted towards the water. All of them experienced an overwhelming desire to live.

Of course, you don’t have to be rich and famous. I was working with a client, quite recently, who felt the very same way. She believed that her life had reached the point of no return and that only the gaping maw of a silent grave could swallow and remove her pain.

It wasn’t, I’m glad to say, true at all.

Thankfully, she reached out to me instead, and I took her hand, helping her find her feet on the path which – step by step – led to her recovery. She learned that tiny but significant actions began to restore her faith in her own ability to shape her life. She wasn’t merely a passive victim of circumstance. She had power and control.

She re-learned how to feel connected to the people around her and how to re-forge her relationship with life. Her wounds healed, her heart recovered and eventually her mind followed suit.

She’s now living happily with a new partner. Life is full of hope and those dreadful, dark days stand firmly in her past. I’m proud of her achievements and am proud to have played my part.

Please don’t give up. Hypnotherapy, psychotherapy and all sorts of talking services can help.

If you need more information, you're worried about someone or you need to talk, then please call 07525051263.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Harry Potter and Self Esteem? What's the link.

Self - Esteem is delicate. It can take years to build and yet a few simple words can raze it to the ground. I know how fragile it can be. Every day, I use hypnotherapy in Banbury, Brackley and Oxford to help people repair the damage which others have done to their confidence, their sense of self and their sense of worth.  

Watch the video! It’ll only take a few moments.  

 

Harry Potter’s teacher is a vicious little bully who does her best to destroy his self-esteem, his happiness and his future. As he writes, her words engrave themselves onto his hand, causing pain and drawing blood. She’s truly nasty, isn’t she!? 

She’s not alone. Bullies are more common than many people like to think. Their words can be cruel, destructive and mean. We all know how damaging bullies can be. Every school had one. Yours did too. I bet you even remember their name. 

But what if the abusive bully exists in your own mind? 

How do you talk to yourself? What kind of language do you use? Do you praise yourself for the good things you’ve done? Do you take pride in the good person you are? 

I thought not. 

If you’re here because you’d like to improve your confidence and self-esteem then it’s probably fair to say that you’re a bully. The problem is however, that you bully yourself! 

My clients will typically bully themselves into the ground. I shudder when they tell me how they treat themselves. I shiver when they relate how cruel they are – to their very own selves. 

The worst thing is – they’re often barely aware of how they do it. 

People become their own bullies 

Perhaps your parents began the process. Maybe it was a bully or two at school. Over time their words became normal. You began by wondering why you’d been singled out. You ended by feeling as if you knew. They were right to bully you. Their words became your words. Their voice became your voice. You became your own bully and nobody in the world can be crueller to your own self than you are.  

Those words are etched deeply into your soul 

The words etched into Harrys hand became deeper and deeper every time he went to detention and, given time, such destructive thoughts will leave their mark on anybody’s sense of self-worth and esteem. A mark was left on Harry’s hand and, in a similar manner. pathways are physically carved into your brain every time one of these horrible thoughts is allowed to exist, unchallenged. 

Over time those thoughts become automatic. They become ingrained and you may not even notice them as they wend their way through your brain.  

They do, however, leave a mark. They become normalised, routine and accepted as truth. The damage slowly accumulates over time.  

You’ve become your own bully. How could hypnotherapy help you to be free? 

It may seem hopeless. You may feel as if those thought patterns are so hard-wired that they can’t be undone. 

It’s not true, they can be. If you’re determined to change then they will be!  

I know this is true because I spend every week using hypnotherapy in Banbury, Oxford and Brackley to help people rewire their minds. What is learned can be unlearned. If you’d like to let go of repetitive and self-destructive thought patterns then please do get in touch. If you’d like to free yourself from that inner bully then give me a call. If you’d like to feel more confident, happier in your own self, more confident in your own skin and free, get in touch. 

I’d be more than happy to talk with you. I’ll be glad to explain how hypnotherapy could help you to be free of self-doubt, anxiety and pain. I’ll help you to heal those old wounds and to be free! 

Call me on 07525051263 or click the contact me button on the website to put poor self esteem behind you.

I look forward to hearing from you 

Adelle

 

Depression is like a virus: Luckily, there is an antidote.

Depression is like a virus. When you are first infected, you barely notice that there is a problem but then the unhappiness begins to spread. Soon enough, the darkness starts to infect to your relationships, work, social life, motivation and to your perceptions. 

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It may be a while before you begin to notice your own symptoms. Of course, everyone is different but you may start to feel the following:

  • A severe lack of energy and motivation
  • Endless fatigue and tiredness
  • Significant weight loss or perhaps weight gain
  • Feeling guilty, hopeless
  • Feeling as though nothing will get better
  • Feeling as though you may as well not be here

Carrying the burden of depression can be exhausting and this is why so many people who feel depressed often begin to act as though they are physically ill.

You may not be able to get out of bed and you may not have enough energy to go out with your friends. You may be so unwell that you find yourself off of work and unable to maintain the energy to complete tasks with an acceptable level of concentration.

Instead of aiding our own recovery, most of us tend to make it worse. 

Let's suppose that you had a broken leg or a bug that caused you to be unwell. The likelihood is that you would rest up, keep yourself hydrated, eat well and let your body mend itself. This seems perfectly logical. 

The problem is that when the mind needs to recover many of us actually take steps to make our symptoms of depression a whole lot worse.

Dark thoughts come in and instead of treating them for what they are, thoughts, you might start to believe them: 

Thoughts such as: 

'' How come I can't pull myself together? I'm just acting like a complete psycho,"

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" I don't actually know how my partner puts up with me, I don't bring anything to this relationship anymore." 

" I have to go out but there is no point, I don't have anything interesting to talk about and i'll probably get on everyone's nerves."

"If I was x,y or z, i'd be able to deal with this."

On top of that you may start to become very submissive and instead of putting your own needs first, you may just start to agree with everyone else and put their needs ahead of yours because you believe that you have no importance. 

You end up feeling crushed under the weight of the depression and exhausted by your efforts to hide the way that you feel and carry on. 

How can Hypnotherapy help? 

Hypnotherapy can help you to accept where you are. Depression is horrible but often you tend to suffer more when you tell yourself that you shouldn't be feeling the way that you do or that you just need to go back to the person that you were before. Accepting where you are can actually alleviate a lot of the pressure and put you on the road to recovery.

It can help you to bin the feelings of helplessness. 

At the minute, you may be feeling helpless, worthless and unworthy. But, I have to say that all of the clients who I have seen with depression are the exact opposite. In fact, many of them get further into a depressed state because they are determined, intelligent individuals with a lot going for them.

It is the same part of your mind that propel you forward and keep you motivated to do well in life that end up working against you when you feel awful about yourself.

Hypnotherapy can help you to hush the awful thoughts, calm the bad feelings and reconnect with the 'you' that is hiding underneath.

It can help you unravel the deep rooted causes and help you to move on 

Many people with depression do not often know the cause of it or why it is happening. When we feel physical pain we sometimes don't feel it at the original site of the injury. You may be having relationship or work difficulties and you may think that these are the issues that you need to get rid of.

Hypnotherapy can help you to get to the root causes of your depression and to change the way that you feel or relate to others as you start to feel better. You may then find that the arguments at home or the pressure at work starts to ease.

If you change the way that you think, feel and behave, you will quickly find that other aspects of your life change for the better too. Including your relationships with others.

I hope that this post has helped, if you need more information or help, then please feel free to call me on 07525051263. I'll look forward to helping you move past depression and into a better future.

 

 

 

 

 

Anxiety is a vicious creature: slay it and get your life back

Anyone who has had an anxiety disorder will know that anxiety is one scary beast.

The relentless burning in your chest when you wake up in the morning; the struggling to get anything past your mouth because you can’t swallow. Most of the time you might be going through your day wondering if people will notice that you can’t concentrate whilst you sit at your desk feeling completely out of control.