Hypnotherapy for men

This week was international women’s day and many women up and down the country were celebrating what it is to be a women.

Whilst I embraced this myself, I couldn’t help remembering the fact that right now the majority of my clients are men. I also remembered a very sobering truth, most of them have come to me for depression.

In this society, men seem to be under increasing pressure from all angles.

Some are expressing to me that they feel a loss of identity, they don’t know who they are or what their role is in the world. They feel that their masculinity is under threat because wages are tight, they can’t earn as much. In some cases their female spouse is earning more.

And unfortunately, I am also see a lot of men who feel that they are stuck in relationships that they can’t get out of because they fear loosing their house, children and their life.

Those that do go through separation have told me that they experience a lack of support and some of the men are also finding dating incredibly hard. They feel that they have to work harder to impress a potential partner because their are so many other men on social media who might appear fitter, stronger, wealthier and a potential date has their pick.

This all seems very grim but their is hope.

The very fact that I am seeing more men in my sessions means that more men are reaching out.

More men are getting to the route cause of their issues, addressing their loss of masculinity and finding the confidence.

Hypnotherapy can help with all of these things.

If you’re feeling similar then know that these feelings and perspectives are temporary. They can be changed and you can get your sense of self back again.

Its easier than you might think.

If you’re needing help with your identity, sense of self of any other issues. Than give me a call on 07525051263. I’d be more than happy to help.




Its time to spring clean your life.

Spring has finally sprung.

It’s a time for the new. A fresh start and things getting warmer and better.

At around about this time, people start to look at their lives and work out what the next year is going to look like.

If that’s you then I don’t blame you. Self development leads to progress and progress is part of a healthy and fulfilled life.

However, you may also be looking at spring cleaning because you have endured some problems recently that you are tired of.

Hypnotherapy can help with this.

During my sessions, I help people to:

  • get to the route cause of their problems

  • to take control of their emotions

  • move towards a better future

If that sounds like something that you would find useful, then give me a call on 07525051263

Hypnotherapy for bad habits

Bad Habits, we all have them. They can range from leaving your shoes in the middle of the floor to smoking  and for so many of us they are so difficult to break.

What are habits?

Habits can be explained in this very simple equation:

Repetitive Behaviour + Pleasure from Behaviour = Habit!

This means that if you do something often and doing it hits the pleasure sensors in the brain, then you’re forming a deep set habit. Take smoking for example: You have a stressful job but at 12pm every day you look forward to your lunchtime cigarette which you have in the smoking shed with your colleagues.

You know that you have to stop smoking but when you try to stop, your mind associates 12pm with the smoking shed and on top of that, when 12pm comes, the pleasure sensors in your brain are expecting their hit.

All of a sudden stopping smoking becomes hard, stressful and you find yourself going back to it.

How can Hypnotherapy help?

Hypnotherapy aligns the mind and your motivation to change. Plus, it helps to pick apart and break down the habit so that you can start to make the changes which you want to see.

Its easier than you think, after all you only have to change on part of an equation to see a different outcome!

If you would like to try this for yourself, then the recording below can be purchased for you to try. If you find that you need a little more help, then give me a call on 07525051263

Depression is like a virus: Luckily, there is an antidote.

Depression is like a virus. When you are first infected, you barely notice that there is a problem but then the unhappiness begins to spread. Soon enough, the darkness starts to infect to your relationships, work, social life, motivation and to your perceptions. 

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It may be a while before you begin to notice your own symptoms. Of course, everyone is different but you may start to feel the following:

  • A severe lack of energy and motivation

  • Endless fatigue and tiredness

  • Significant weight loss or perhaps weight gain

  • Feeling guilty, hopeless

  • Feeling as though nothing will get better

  • Feeling as though you may as well not be here

Carrying the burden of depression can be exhausting and this is why so many people who feel depressed often begin to act as though they are physically ill.

You may not be able to get out of bed and you may not have enough energy to go out with your friends. You may be so unwell that you find yourself off of work and unable to maintain the energy to complete tasks with an acceptable level of concentration.

Instead of aiding our own recovery, most of us tend to make it worse. 

Let's suppose that you had a broken leg or a bug that caused you to be unwell. The likelihood is that you would rest up, keep yourself hydrated, eat well and let your body mend itself. This seems perfectly logical. 

The problem is that when the mind needs to recover many of us actually take steps to make our symptoms of depression a whole lot worse.

Dark thoughts come in and instead of treating them for what they are, thoughts, you might start to believe them: 

Thoughts such as: 

'' How come I can't pull myself together? I'm just acting like a complete psycho,"

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" I don't actually know how my partner puts up with me, I don't bring anything to this relationship anymore." 

" I have to go out but there is no point, I don't have anything interesting to talk about and i'll probably get on everyone's nerves."

"If I was x,y or z, i'd be able to deal with this."

On top of that you may start to become very submissive and instead of putting your own needs first, you may just start to agree with everyone else and put their needs ahead of yours because you believe that you have no importance. 

You end up feeling crushed under the weight of the depression and exhausted by your efforts to hide the way that you feel and carry on. 

How can Hypnotherapy help? 

Hypnotherapy can help you to accept where you are. Depression is horrible but often you tend to suffer more when you tell yourself that you shouldn't be feeling the way that you do or that you just need to go back to the person that you were before. Accepting where you are can actually alleviate a lot of the pressure and put you on the road to recovery.

It can help you to bin the feelings of helplessness. 

At the minute, you may be feeling helpless, worthless and unworthy. But, I have to say that all of the clients who I have seen with depression are the exact opposite. In fact, many of them get further into a depressed state because they are determined, intelligent individuals with a lot going for them.

It is the same part of your mind that propel you forward and keep you motivated to do well in life that end up working against you when you feel awful about yourself.

Hypnotherapy can help you to hush the awful thoughts, calm the bad feelings and reconnect with the 'you' that is hiding underneath.

It can help you unravel the deep rooted causes and help you to move on 

Many people with depression do not often know the cause of it or why it is happening. When we feel physical pain we sometimes don't feel it at the original site of the injury. You may be having relationship or work difficulties and you may think that these are the issues that you need to get rid of.

Hypnotherapy can help you to get to the root causes of your depression and to change the way that you feel or relate to others as you start to feel better. You may then find that the arguments at home or the pressure at work starts to ease.

If you change the way that you think, feel and behave, you will quickly find that other aspects of your life change for the better too. Including your relationships with others.

I hope that this post has helped, if you need more information or help, then please feel free to call me on 07525051263. I'll look forward to helping you move past depression and into a better future.

 

 

 

 

 

Want to reach your goals? The clue is in the mountains.


Here’s the truth,

Goal setting is really easy. Sticking to it isn’t.

Whether it’s smoking, weight loss, making money, or starting a business most of us at some point have goals that we want to achieve.

The first thing that most of us do is visualise it. We imagine what it will be like to have that toned body. We imagine ourselves in all of our glory when we make loads of money from our business idea. And this is great, visualising things makes them seem real to us and can act as one of our biggest motivators.

BUT

Sooner or later the times comes the time when we actually have to do it.

We have to go and get that body, go and make that money be that person in our imagination.

Then we start to realise that it our goals are harder than they looked in our heads.

You go to the gym with the Instagram version of yourself firmly in your head, only to find that after three minutes on a treadmill you’re gasping for air.

That perfect body starts to look further away from you than you thought. Then, sitting at home watching your favourite TV programme starts to look more inviting and before you know it your goal becomes out of your reach.

Does this all sound familiar?

So the question you may be asking is, how can I make sure that I achieve my goals and what does this have to do with mountains?

Mountains are some of the biggest, and most majestic formations on the planet. Some of them are no big, that they have their own climates. They are the rocky evidence that our earth is capable of creating some amazing things.

And they are formed by tectonic plates, and these plates are most of the time unnoticed, subtle and they only move a measly 2.5 centimeters a year. But, those plates only have to move together and that 2.5 centimeters can shift the earth thousands of meters into the air. The pressure and movement develops slowly over time, building and building until it has enough motivation to literally, move mountains.


You need to work in the same way.


The truth is that great things can come from the slightest of changes.


So when you’re goal setting, instead of focusing on the end result, break it down.


You can achieve your goals by following some of these steps:

1.Work out where you want to be.

2. Then work out your timetable. Ask yourself where or when can I fit this in?

3. Commit to doing one thing per day that moves you to your goal.


If it’s weight loss, then commit to taking the stairs every day instead of the lift.


Smoking? Tell yourself you will illuminate the easiest cigarette from your day and work your way towards the hardest one.


4. Slowly up increase the time, effort and difficulty. When you have reached the first step, work out what the next one will be and commit to that.


Before, you know it, you will be implementing your changes without making drastic moves. You will be building lasting habits and feeling proud of yourself when you get there.


Remember we become demotivated when things seem to far away for us to achieve.

So slowly make moves towards your goal, build the momentum, do small things on a regular basis and all of this will gradually build until you have so much power that your goal will become in reach and you can take it for yourself.


If you have found this article useful and feel that you can achieve your goals on your own then great, but if you feel that you need a little more help then give me a call on 07525051263.